My client sits on the couch across from me with a pained expression. She and her partner just had another fight where his anger scared and belittled her. When this situation happened not long ago, she promised herself she would leave if it ever happened again. But...
Acceptance is one of the most important skills you can master regarding your mental health. Whether you’re learning how to live with grief, getting back into dating after a breakup, learning a new skill, working on your fitness goals, or assessing your strengths...
Relationships can provide some of the greatest joys, profound love, and comforting securities. Yet relationships also trigger anxiety and bring some of our heaviest fears and scariest longings to the surface. It’s typical to worry about your relationship or your...
Have you ever worried about the way you worry? Worry is a normal part of life. But how can you determine if it’s gotten out of hand and it’s grown into something bigger like anxiety or panic? Worry can be overwhelming, isolating, terrifying, draining, and is often...
Do you ever worry about rocking the boat in your relationship? Maybe you feel resentful or unseen, but hold back from saying anything because you fear it will make things worse. You’re not alone. Conflict avoidance is the pattern of withdrawing from, minimizing, or...
If you and your significant other are stuck in repetitive and unhealthy cycles and you’re both on very different pages about a solution, it’s natural to feel alone and overwhelmed. For some, couples therapy or individual therapy may be a natural choice, but a lot...
It’s that time of year again where our inboxes, televisions, conversations, and social media feeds are filling up with ideas for New Year’s resolutions and all the things we supposedly need to change about our lives to be happier and healthier. They always sound...
In the aftermath of the discovery of an affair, there is a whirlwind of emotion, confusion, trauma, and pain. What can often get lost is that there are two distinct and valid experiences happening during this whirlwind, not just the experience of the betrayed...
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation.” -Audre Lorde Many of us regard self-care as a luxury. But caring for ourselves and making sure we have what we need to be well is, as Audre Lorde put it, “self-preservation.” Without tending to...
Nothing prepares you for the blow of discovering your partner has been unfaithful. It’s emotionally overwhelming and amidst the chaos of your internal and external worlds, it can be challenging to know what to do next. You may not know if you want to stay with your...
