Anna Malles

Anxiety vs Panic Attack: What you Need to Know

Have you ever worried about the way you worry? Worry is a normal part of life. But how can you determine if it’s gotten out of hand and it’s grown into something bigger like anxiety or panic? Worry can be overwhelming, isolating, terrifying, draining, and is often...

Why You Avoid Conflict and What to Do About It

Are you ever worried about rocking the proverbial boat? Do you find yourself feeling unsatisfied or resentful in your relationship because you’re worried that voicing your needs will lead to conflict and instead damage the relationship more? You’re not alone....

The Anti-Resolution Post (and what to try instead!)

It’s that time of year again where our inboxes, televisions, conversations, and social media feeds are filling up with ideas for New Year’s resolutions and all the things we supposedly need to change about our lives to be happier and healthier. They always sound...

You Had an Affair, Here are 6 Ways to Move Forward

In the aftermath of the discovery of an affair, there is a whirlwind of emotion, confusion, trauma, and pain. What can often get lost is that there are two distinct and valid experiences happening during this whirlwind, not just the experience of the betrayed...

Why Self-Care is Self-Preservation

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation.” -Audre Lorde   Many of us regard self-care as a luxury. But caring for ourselves and making sure we have what we need to be well is as Audre Lorde put it, “self-preservation.” Without tending...

Is There A “Right Way” to Get Angry?

How did you learn to think about your anger— Were you allowed to feel angry or did you learn how to stuff it down? Were you taught to express anger with your words or actions? Was it dismissed and invalidated with statements like “Calm down” or “Don’t overreact?”...

Tackling Trauma? Why EMDR Therapy May Be Worth a Try

I first discovered Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy, better known as EMDR, while in grad school. At the time I was working as an intern at a residential mental health facility for individuals in recovery from acute distress associated with...