Anna Malles

The Anti-Resolution Post (and what to try instead!)

It’s that time of year again where our inboxes, televisions, conversations, and social media feeds are filling up with ideas for New Year’s resolutions and all the things we supposedly need to change about our lives to be happier and healthier. They always sound...

You Had an Affair, Here are 6 Ways to Move Forward

In the aftermath of the discovery of an affair, there is a whirlwind of emotion, confusion, trauma, and pain. What can often get lost is that there are two distinct and valid experiences happening during this whirlwind, not just the experience of the betrayed...

Why Self-Care is Self-Preservation

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation.” -Audre Lorde   Many of us regard self-care as a luxury. But caring for ourselves and making sure we have what we need to be well is as Audre Lorde put it, “self-preservation.” Without tending...

Is There A “Right Way” to Get Angry?

How did you learn to think about your anger— Were you allowed to feel angry or did you learn how to stuff it down? Were you taught to express anger with your words or actions? Was it dismissed and invalidated with statements like “Calm down” or “Don’t overreact?”...

Tackling Trauma? Why EMDR Therapy May Be Worth a Try

I first discovered Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy, better known as EMDR, while in grad school. At the time I was working as an intern at a residential mental health facility for individuals in recovery from acute distress associated with...

Re-Entry Anxiety & Self-Care in a Post-Pandemic World

With the Covid-19 vaccine available widely now and new recommendations from the CDC for fully vaccinated people to be able to resume activities without wearing masks or physically distancing, our world is adjusting to another major change: life post-pandemic. For...

Conscious Dating Part 2: Is Your Relationship Built to Last?

Finding your partner, your “person,” the love of your life, the “one” is never as easy as it looks in the movies. You’ll often hear people say, “When you know, you know,” but it rarely seems to be that clear. Many of us were brought up with the belief that falling...

How to Heal From Divorce

Divorce is one of the most stressful situations an individual can go through. The first step to healing is meeting yourself where you are and admitting that you’re hurting. You’ve experienced something traumatic and things are going to be hard for a while. Our...

Women’s Mental Health Starts With Being Selfish

This month we celebrated women and girls on March 8th for International Women’s Day. I was reminded recently by an interview Brené Brown did with Melinda Gates on her podcast Unlocking Us about the power that women have to transform communities, economies, and...