There is a unique sense of relaxation and escape we find on a couch, usually after a long day: the television is on and we’re watching someone else’s life fall apart in real time. Maybe it’s a couple fighting in the kitchen on Summer House. It could be a...
One of the hardest places to find yourself in is loving someone deeply while feeling uncertain about whether they see the same future you do. If you’ve been wondering where your relationship is headed without saying so out loud, you may have spent months, or...
If you’re reading this, you’ve probably already tried to explain the mental load to your partner. Perhaps you’ve tried more than a few times. You’ve brought it up calmly. You’ve tried not to blame. Maybe you’ve even sent articles or had a really productive...
We tend to put a lot of pressure on Valentine’s Day. From expensive bouquets and elaborate dinners to mushy social media posts, it’s not always easy to align expectations with your partner. And as the holiday comes and goes, many people notice a lingering ache:...
Dear Therapist, My wife recently told me she doesn’t feel very connected in our relationship—and that she’d like us to be more connected. I care deeply about her and I want to show up in a way that feels meaningful, but I’m not sure what she’s really asking for....
At the beginning of a relationship, connection feels effortless. The honeymoon phase makes everything feel fresh, exciting, and deeply in sync. You’re naturally in tune with each other’s needs, desires, and emotions. But as time goes on, life inevitably gets in...
Have you ever found yourself in a conversation with your wife or partner where nothing seems to come out right? You care. You want to fix it. You want them to feel loved. But everything you say seems to make it worse. You try to offer sympathy, but it doesn’t help....
Dear Therapist, My husband had an affair, and I can’t shake the feeling that everything has been so broken that it can never be put back together again. I feel so lost and trapped in my pain. Will it ever get better? I find myself constantly wanting to check...
Healing from infidelity can feel like you’re trapped in a nightmare that you can’t wake up from. One moment, everything seems stable, and the next, your world has flipped upside down. The person you trusted most in the world has betrayed you, and the pain is so raw...
Your spouse wants to separate, and you don’t. The reality of a marriage separation can feel like a heart-wrenching experience. As a therapist, it’s even emotional for me as I walk with my clients through a uniquely painful grief process. When separation is not what...
