In the aftermath of the discovery of an affair, there is a whirlwind of emotion, confusion, trauma, and pain. What can often get lost is that there are two distinct and valid experiences happening during this whirlwind, not just the experience of the betrayed...
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation.” -Audre Lorde Many of us regard self-care as a luxury. But caring for ourselves and making sure we have what we need to be well is as Audre Lorde put it, “self-preservation.” Without tending...
Nothing prepares you for the blow of discovering your partner has been unfaithful. It’s emotionally overwhelming and amidst the chaos of your internal and external worlds, it can be challenging to know what to do next. You may not know if you want to stay with your...
How did you learn to think about your anger— Were you allowed to feel angry or did you learn how to stuff it down? Were you taught to express anger with your words or actions? Was it dismissed and invalidated with statements like “Calm down” or “Don’t overreact?”...
I first discovered Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy, better known as EMDR, while in grad school. At the time I was working as an intern at a residential mental health facility for individuals in recovery from acute distress associated with...
With the Covid-19 vaccine available widely now and new recommendations from the CDC for fully vaccinated people to be able to resume activities without wearing masks or physically distancing, our world is adjusting to another major change: life post-pandemic. For...
Finding your partner, your “person,” the love of your life, the “one” is never as easy as it looks in the movies. You’ll often hear people say, “When you know, you know,” but it rarely seems to be that clear. Many of us were brought up with the belief that falling...
Divorce is one of the most stressful situations an individual can go through. The first step to healing is meeting yourself where you are and admitting that you’re hurting. You’ve experienced something traumatic and things are going to be hard for a while. Our...
This month we celebrated women and girls on March 8th for International Women’s Day. I was reminded recently by an interview Brené Brown did with Melinda Gates on her podcast Unlocking Us about the power that women have to transform communities, economies, and...
When people date unconsciously, they often cycle through relationship after relationship and never really find what they’re looking for. We’ve put together some tips for how to begin new patterns of dating consciously and intentionally, where you are as connected to yourself as you are to your partner.
