There is a unique sense of relaxation and escape we find on a couch, usually after a long day: the television is on and we’re watching someone else’s life fall apart in real time. Maybe it’s a couple fighting in the kitchen on Summer House. It could be a...
Dear Therapist, I am feeling really anxious in my relationship. I get anxious when my partner and I are apart. So much so that I find myself constantly checking my phone to see if they’ve texted me, analyzing how long it’s taking them to respond,...
One of the hardest places to find yourself in is loving someone deeply while feeling uncertain about whether they see the same future you do. If you’ve been wondering where your relationship is headed without saying so out loud, you may have spent months, or...
With an endless supply of blogs, resources, and literary recommendations from therapists to the world, where do clinicians turn for themselves? Our answer is in the 11 books found below. Every now and then, a book can come along that reminds you why you got into...
If you’re reading this, you’ve probably already tried to explain the mental load to your partner. Perhaps you’ve tried more than a few times. You’ve brought it up calmly. You’ve tried not to blame. Maybe you’ve even sent articles or had a really productive...
We tend to put a lot of pressure on Valentine’s Day. From expensive bouquets and elaborate dinners to mushy social media posts, it’s not always easy to align expectations with your partner. And as the holiday comes and goes, many people notice a lingering ache:...
You meet your friend for coffee, and just like that, four hours and 40 topics have gone by. Your coffee cup sits next to you, nearly forgotten, with just a few sips left. You pick up your girlfriend on your way to the grocery store, knowing that running an errand...
Dear Therapist, My wife recently told me she doesn’t feel very connected in our relationship—and that she’d like us to be more connected. I care deeply about her and I want to show up in a way that feels meaningful, but I’m not sure what she’s really asking for....
Dear Therapist, I got triggered at a friend’s birthday dinner last weekend, and I can’t stop thinking about it. Someone dropped a glass and it startled me—nothing big, just a loud crash and laughter. I flinched, froze for a second, then laughed it off. Later, while...
At the beginning of a relationship, connection feels effortless. The honeymoon phase makes everything feel fresh, exciting, and deeply in sync. You’re naturally in tune with each other’s needs, desires, and emotions. But as time goes on, life inevitably gets in...
